That’s Not me
Being the elderly fourth year that I am, I have encountered a lot of people during my time at Warwick. Many of whom I have gotten along with just fine, many of whom I have preferred to avoid. While some of these people were avoided out of personal preference, there were others who had cultivated a general opinion of themselves as ‘a bit of a d***’. Here’s how not to become one of those people:
Don’t treat uni like secondary school. In some respects, anyway. Sure, if you studied hard and were pleasant at secondary school then great. But the gossip, the s***-stirring, the Mean Girls-‘esque’ cliques…save it. When most people go to university, it is a rather humbling process as you recognise that the world is bigger than you previously thought. However, there are some egos which are not quite weakened enough by this and these people tend to be quite annoying; just because you were the most popular kid in your sixth form, does not mean that everybody on campus should be flattered by your acquaintance.
Don’t pretend to know everything. Truth be told, if you’re attending Warwick University you’re going to be rather intelligent, that’s no lie. So, even if you are a bit of a demon at pub quizzes or you got the highest percentage in your first year, don’t swan around acting like you’re the bee’s knees. It gets old very fast. Additionally, if you were used to being the cleverest person in your secondary school, it may well not be the case that you are the cleverest person at university, so try to stay relatively humble – it’s a much better look.
Don’t hate on other people’s choices. It sounds obvious, but it doesn’t hurt to mention it. Universities are diverse, people are diverse. Therefore, just because somebody’s views (on anything, be it politics, alcohol, clothing, food) are different to yours, does not mean that they are wrong or flawed. This is not a call to accept and adopt every opinion possible but rather just to simply acknowledge that other opinions exist and that just because it doesn’t match yours, does not mean it is incorrect.
Drop the ‘I’s. Something slightly more trivial here but returning to that same area of ‘ego’ (can you see a pattern emerging?). When you’re talking to people, try not to always be talking about yourself. Sure, mention a few anecdotes, bring up your opinion on things but there is nothing worse than chatting to someone and hearing every sentence that they say start with “I”. Try asking the other person/people about themselves instead, the conversation will probably last longer.
I have no doubt that anybody reading this is a sound and pleasant individual but I always like to keep these tips in my head just so that I don’t run the risk of becoming that person who you pretend you haven’t seen when you pass them in the street.