How To Start Thinking Positively About Yourself
From a young age, we’re encouraged to “play nicely” and to “be nice.” Somewhere down the line, the concept of niceness got lost in translation and we started acting this way to everyone except ourselves. It became easier to tell a stranger that they have a great body but harder to tell yourself the same thing. It became easier to spot the potential in friends, yet you struggle to see your own. When did being nice to others and being nice to yourself become mutually exclusive? Perhaps the problem stems from us knowing what our flaws are and focusing on them. Usually, when we interact with individuals, they put their best foot forward so it’s easier to see them in a good light. It’s kind of like Instagram. Naturally, you could say that this makes us our own harshest critic and worst of all, our own biggest enemy. It’s funny how a large part of our lives is spent trying to be a good friend to people, yet we fall short in the relationship we have with ourselves. Sometimes we don’t realise how much we’re damaging our self-esteem, even though we know full well we wouldn’t be friends with a person who spoke to us in the same manner we speak to ourselves. So, what can we do to fix this?
If you read that word and your first thought was “I don’t have time”, then you need meditation more than you think you do. It’s nice to be still. No worries about exam results, careers, relationship problems or anything of that nature. It’s just ten to fifteen minutes of you allowing yourself to be at peace, and if you’re at peace, then damaging thoughts can’t affect you. If you’re new to meditating, you can often find yourself losing concentration because you allow your thoughts to distract you. This is completely okay! Once you get distracted, just try to let the thought go instead of beating yourself up about it. Like with most things, practice makes perfect.
Now this one is a bit cringe-worthy to some people, and if you agree, then I completely understand because that’s how I felt, and to be honest, it’s how I still feel. However, when you say something over and over again, you start to believe it. That’s why no matter how much your friends and family admire you, you just can’t seem to accept it. You’ve repeatedly told yourself that you’re nothing special. Imagine the impact you could have if you switched those mental insults to compliments. You don’t have to do the whole ‘stand in the mirror and tell yourself your beautiful’ thing because I am cringing just thinking of you doing it. But, you can start to speak positively about yourself when your thoughts are against you.
I understand all of this is easier said than done, but most things are. If you’re serious about increasing the confidence you have in yourself, then you need to work at it. Remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day so yes, you’ll have moments where you revert to your negative mindset. The only advice I can give is that you make sure it remains just that, a moment.