Finding friends as an introvert
Finding new friends when you move to university can feel like a daunting prospect, especially if – like me – you consider yourself to be more of an introvert than an extrovert. If you’re worried about finding people you click with on campus, I hope this post reassures you that you will make friends and gives you some useful tips to help the process!
Warwick has a huge number of societies that meet on a regular basis and run lots of socials. Joining a society is a great opportunity to meet people with similar interests to you in a relaxed group setting. I’ve tried out a few different societies over my time at Warwick and have found that Warwick Salsa is particularly good for meeting people as you only talk briefly whilst learning a new skill which makes it feel like a low-pressure way to socialise. If you’re from a religious background, there are also several religious societies which might help you meet like-minded people and feel part of a community on campus. It’s also important to know that not all societies are big on drinking and going for nights out so if partying isn’t your scene, there’s still plenty for you to get involved with.
Spend time with your flatmates
Your flatmates will most likely be the first people you’ll meet when you get to uni. Hopefully, you’ll find people in your flat that you click with. Having that unit of friends within your accommodation can really help you settle in and gives you the opportunity to meet new people together. If you find that your flatmates are quite different to you, there are still lots of other ways to meet people so don’t worry too much – you will still find friends. Even if you get on really well with your flatmates, it’s still a good idea to branch out and meet people outside of your accommodation. This will help you build a wider friendship network and will allow you to bring your friends from your flat and your course/societies together!
Get to know your coursemates
Depending on what subject you’re studying and how your course is taught, it can be hard to get to know the people in your classes. Having friends who are on the same course as you can be a really big support as they can relate to any academic stress you’re going through and you can support each other as you make the transition to undergraduate level study. The best way to make friends on your course is to make the effort to chat to the people around you, join societies related to your course and accept invitations to join your coursemates for social events.
Talk to people about how you feel
If you feel like you’re struggling, talking to the people around you can really help you build bonds; there’s a good chance that they’re feeling a similar way to you or will be able to introduce you to their friends. It’s also important to use your support network at home – catching up with your family and friends will make you feel more connected and remind you that there are people there to help you adjust to uni life.
I’ve found really great friends through my accommodation and my course during my time at Warwick. I definitely think I could have socialised more over the last couple of years so my main piece of advice is to be brave, put yourself out there and make an effort to get to know people. At the same time, I think it’s crucial to stay true to yourself – don’t pretend to be someone you’re not in an attempt to fit in with a certain crowd. The right people will accept you for who you are, so if you feel like you’re being your true self you’ll naturally gravitate towards the people who will help make your time at Warwick special!