Accepting That Your Best Is Good Enough
In today’s blog, I am going to write about how University taught me to cut myself some slack. We all want to succeed and challenging yourself is so important to fulfilling your full potential. But sometimes our expectations of ourselves are simply too high. We’re perfectionists.
Perfectionism means setting our goals too high and having unrealistic expectations.Being allergic to failure is often driven by an underlying sense of shame. If we can achieve some lofty goal and be perfectly successful, then no one can shame us.
Sometimes these high expectations of ourselves and want to do goodcan stop us from getting properly. I have learnt that there are times to ponder over decisions and there are times to just University is such a brilliant opportunity to enjoy the little things, to have fun. If you’re currently in the build-up to exams, remember that that brain of yours need a break sometimes. So don’t feel guilty when you’re not working. This is simply taking care of yourself. You will work better when you have had a break.
Another lesson I have learnt over the last few years is that if we let expectations rule our lives, we set ourselves up for disappointment. This applies to all stages of life. Whether you’re doing you A Levels, your GCSE’s or you’re in a full time job. Life has a funny way of working things out. When I finished my A Levels I was hoping to go to Exeter. My idea of my University experience and where I would be now was completely different. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. So remember, you’re best is enough, and that’s all you can do.
I always feel so embarrassed when people ask me what I intend to do with my History Degree. As a Final Year Undergraduate, I really hoped I would know by now. I what I want to do, in a generic sense- Marketing, HR or Advertising. But I’m not entirely set on anything. And I am not willing to make a decision, or even fib, just so that I don’t feel silly answering that question. But I always forget thatI time. I have time to figure this all out. So I want tofocus on the .
How I have accepted that my best is good enough:
- I do let my own, or others, expectations of me rule my life. This is a vicious cycle, whereby I set myself up for disappointment. Thenharshly for it. So set yourself realistic targets and cut yourself some slack.
- I try to think of life in terms of adventures and have ditched my ‘expectations’ and instead set myself ‘goals’. Whatever happens on results day- you will be OK. Maybe in a years time you’ll look back and think ‘that all happened for a reason’.
- I am hopeful that I exceed my ‘goals’ and will happily make way for something bigger and better. Be optimistic- you might be worrying for months and then surprise yourself!
- I plan to trust that everything will work itself out, it always does. So just keep working away. Like Dory from Finding Nemo: just keep working, just keep working…
- When things go badly I am going to try my absolute best toremain positive. You will achieve far less if you panic. What is done is done. I know many people, including myself, who have walked away from an exam and thought ‘I fluffed that up’ and then did the best in that paper.
I hope you enjoyed reading this!
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